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How To Deal With Colleagues Who Love To Chew Their Tongue

2008/10/16 11:04:00 41824

What do you do when you find someone who says bad things behind you and secretly destroys your image?

Never be angry with others for anger.

Stabilize your emotions first, and then solve the problem step by step according to the method provided by The New York Times career columnist Sheryl Dale (CherylDahle).

1. review yourself first.

You should think about whether or not you did something or what you said, and let the other person see you disagreeable.

If you do not know, you can go to the other side to ask for help.

2. ask why.

你可以問(wèn)說(shuō)：“我不知道發(fā)生了什么事，是否可以告訴我是什么問(wèn)題?！比绻麑?duì)方什么話也不愿意說(shuō)，干脆直接了當(dāng)?shù)母鷮?duì)方說(shuō)：“我知道你對(duì)我似乎有些不滿，我認(rèn)為我們有必要把話說(shuō)清楚?！?/font>

3. a euphemistic warning.

如果對(duì)方不肯承認(rèn)他曾經(jīng)在別人說(shuō)過(guò)不利于你的話，你也不必戳破對(duì)方，只要跟對(duì)方說(shuō)：“我想可能是我誤會(huì)了。不過(guò)，如果以后如果你有任何的問(wèn)題，希望你能直接告訴我?！蹦愕哪康闹皇亲寣?duì)方知道：你絕對(duì)不會(huì)坐視不管。

4. report to the boss.

When something like this happens second times, you can clearly tell the other person: "if the two of us can't solve the problem, we need to let the boss know about it."

If things are still not resolved, report them directly to the boss.

Of course, not all situations must be reported to the boss.

If the other person is just critical about your dressing taste, let him go. This will not affect your work or your relationship with your colleagues.