In order not to lose our sense of propriety, we must pay attention to the following points in addition to improving our cultural accomplishment and ideological accomplishment.

First, recognize your identity when speaking.

Anyone who speaks on any occasion has his own specific identity.

This identity is also its own "role status" at that time.

For example, in your own family, for your children, you are a father or a mother. For your parents, you are a son or a daughter again.

It is inappropriate to talk to the elders or elders if you use the tone of speaking to a child, because it is impolite and improper.

Second, speak as objective as possible.

The objective here is to respect facts.

The fact is how it should be, and it should reflect the objective reality in a realistic way.

Some people like to conjecture and make believe, which often leads to bad things.

Of course, objectively reflecting the reality, we should also pay attention to the way of expression according to the occasion and object.

Third, we must have good intentions in speaking.

Good will is good for others.

The purpose of speaking is to let the other person understand his thoughts and feelings.

As the saying goes, "a word of three is warm in winter, and a bad word hurts.

In interpersonal communication, if you grasp this "propriety", then you will master the true meaning of polite speech.