Examine a man's language and observe his countenance It is the basic skill to handle freely in all human relationships. He will not turn his tongue around, or he will turn the tiller without knowing the direction of the wind.

Intuition is sensitive but easy to be deceived. Knowing how to reason and judge is the top-level skill pursued by observation. Words can reveal a person's character, facial expression can let us spy on others' hearts, clothes, sitting posture, gesture will also sell their owners in no sense.

Speech can tell you a person's status, character, quality and reveal his inner feelings. Therefore, listening to the outside voice is the key to "observing words".

If we look at the color as if we look at the weather, then we should have a deep understanding of a face, such as "seeing the clouds and knowing the weather", because not everyone can be angry and angry at all times and occasions, instead, "laugh on your face and cry in your heart".

"Wink" is the most important part of facial expression. It can tell us the truth most unconsciously. People's sitting posture and clothing also help us to be micro, so as to identify others as a whole, and be aware of their inner intentions.

　　 Interpersonal communication In other words, facial expressions, gestures, movements and seemingly inadvertent acts, a keen and careful observation is a prerequisite for mastering the other's intentions. For example, Boss When we meet, we can observe our eyes and hands. Insight his heart :

1, the boss does not speak up when he speaks, but does not look at people. This is a bad sign that despises subordinates and considers him incompetent.

2, the boss looks at people from top to bottom. This is a manifestation of superiority - good dominance and arrogance.

3, the boss looks at his subordinates for a long time. He is waiting for more information. His impression of subordinates is incomplete.

4, the boss is friendly and candid to look at subordinates, or sometimes winks at subordinates - subordinates are very capable, please him, or even mistakes can get his forgiveness.

5, the boss's sharp eyesight, expression unchanged, like a sword to wear subordinates. This is a display of power, indifference, and superiority. At the same time, it is also indicating to your subordinates: you don't want to deceive me, I can see through your mind.

6, the boss occasionally glance up, and the eyes of the subordinates meet after the following look, if you do this many times, you can be sure that the boss is not sure about the subordinate.

7, the boss gazed at the room, nodding from time to time. This is a very bad sign. It means that the boss wants his subordinates to obey him completely, no matter what his subordinates say or what he thinks, he doesn't pay attention to it.

8, hands together, from the top down pressure, the body plays a balance role - gentle. Calm.

9, the hands are inserted into the waist, and the elbow is bent outward. This is a traditional body language of the good command, often the posture made when meeting specific power problems.

10, the boss sitting on the chair, back to the back of his body, his hands behind his back, his elbows open outwards, which means that he is very relaxed at this time, but it may well be conceited.

11, the index finger points to the other side - a naked sense of superiority and aggression.

12, holding hands behind each other is also a sign of superiority.

13, the boss clapped his subordinates on the shoulders - recognition and appreciation of their subordinates, but only from the side to make a real recognition and appreciation. If you shoot from the front or the top, it means underestimating your subordinates or showing your power.

14, fingers close together, hands form Pyramid shape, fingertips facing front - we must dismiss each other's hints.

15, the hands should be fist - not only to frighten others, but also to maintain their own views. If you punch your table with your fist, you simply try to avoid people talking.