Although you can't always avoid meeting people who like complaining at work, you can still let them not influence you.

But if you are forced to deal with negative people, it is very difficult to remain positive. Unfortunately, the proportion of negative people in the workplace is very large.

Here's how you can get yourself out of complaining.

1. try to avoid dealing with them as much as possible.

It's probably not necessary, but it's up against it.

The best way for people to get rid of them is to clear them out of your life.

At work, don't chat with them in tea or sit with them for lunch.

Unless they are absolutely required, they should not be invited to the meeting.

If they are

You will not be able to avoid them and maintain friendly and friendly relations with them, but do not develop any deeper relationships.

If you are online, do not read political blogs or any content that people will speak anonymously.

It's like drinking water in a sewer.

When you have to deal with negative people, the worst thing you can do is to show bright eyes and a furry tail.

Your positive optimism will not cheer them up.

Quite the contrary.

They will see it as a challenge and resist them with their negative negativity.

Expressing optimism on the side of a pessimist is like drawing a target on your forehead - a pessimist sees it as a target to vent his or her hatred and failure.

Don't you believe me? Search for "I hate optimists" on Google, and then read the results of the search.

Negative people invest in their own negativity.

Don't try to pull them out.

3. agree, and then use the weaker language to re express.

Negative people express themselves in negative and emotional language (such as hate, bad, bullshit, damn, etc.)

Because these words are loaded, and these words make the negative people more miserable and negative.

It is a classic vicious cycle.

The only way to help negative people get rid of this cycle is to let themselves stand side by side with them.

To do that, you should understand and agree with every negative word they say.

Then, as part of your agreement, you repeat what they say, but replace the emotional words with some less loaded words.

Example:

Debbie: "I hate it very much."

You: "yes, this is a very annoying situation."

Debbie: "this is totally bad."

You: "indeed.

It's really hard. "

When you do this, you will notice that the negative person is actually changing her physiological state.

Her body was straight and her eyebrows were not so tight.

As long as you do this long enough, you can reduce a person's negativity until he can take off his colored glasses.

But it takes a long time.

4. then empty your mind.

Dealing with negative people will drain and drain your energy.

So whenever you are forced to deal with such a person, you must spend some time afterwards to fill your emotional battery again.

The best way to deal with afterwards is to call or visit a like-minded friend who shares your positive attitude.

If it is not possible, go out for a walk, listen to music and read some inspiring books.

Do something - whatever it is - relax your mind.

If you can't do these things, you can't change clothes or take a bath after a long journey in the mud.

If you are not careful, negative emotions will stick to you.

In fact, this is the negative reason for negative people.

It is a learned behavior.

After all, most children are born optimists.