"Skill" is deep and shallow.

If you think flattering is simply sweet words, you will underestimate flattery. Generally, it can be classified as "flattery" and "tacit understanding".

The former is the expression of honey on the mouth, oil on the bottom of the foot, and the latter is well versed in psychology. They tend to learn their preferences from one of their superiors, every word and everything, for example, to know that a singer who is admired by his boss wants to open a concert with a high price for the first two.

In contrast, the former is more direct, which makes people understand at a glance. Apple Polish "Skill" is relatively shallow, easy to be seen through, if you encounter a person who does not eat this set will often backfire; the latter's "Tao" is relatively high, often silent, but the effect is wonderful. This is just like the two martial arts realms described in martial arts novels. The former uses the brute force of your feet and the latter relies on internal strength to practice and kill people.

　　 power Is the fundamental driving force for action.

In the past, flattery was mostly regarded as a manifestation of the right to worship. Because in the office, once there is a hierarchy of superiors and superiors, those who like to flatten their superiors will shake themselves out and become flattering. Some even do not want to play a serious drama in public. They give people the impression that they serve power as gods.

And there is absolutely no word "loyalty" in the dictionary of this group of people. They will not swear to be loyal to anyone in two. This group of highly trained puff masters always keeps looking for objects that conform to the standards of worship. Once their masters lose power, they will immediately come to a beautiful backward somersault and go to the other side, which will keep them standing in a stormy situation.

　 Flattery, clap or not?

Wherever there are people who like to flatter, if you are in an institution where your boss is just a loyal and virtuous person, he may value the performance of his subordinates more. If you meet a boss who likes a "Pug", unfortunately, you can only pray that he can see the tricks of flattery early, and that he is loyal and loyal.

Perhaps you will meet your boss in the elevator tomorrow, and he will be very excited to come up with a really bad plan to share with you and ask your opinion. What will you do? Speak out? Then you will get better in the days to come. See the wind and rudder, sing praises without principles, and be too sorry for yourself. "Shoot", or not "shoot", how to "shoot" can not "shoot" to the horse leg is really a problem.

In fact, the unconditional duplicity and modest praise can not be compared with ignorance of flattery. If you can maintain your dignity and give a little bit of respect to the other side, is it not perfect? For example, "this plan is pretty good, but it can't add some more." It was a flattering boss and a timely display of himself.

Follow Boss Sometimes it is necessary to master the art of coax. It is nothing more than a sweet mouth: the boss has just bought a very beautiful picture album, and hopes to get everyone's approval. You may as well agree with a few compliments, a harmless compliment, a humble attitude, and a moderate speech. Who would not like to listen to sweet words in the world? Who would like to share a room with a man who has been telling himself all day and frustrating himself?

If you maintain a certain degree of respect for your boss and do well in your job, it is not important to flatter you. An excellent manager is more willing to see his subordinates' good performance and performance.