We will encounter personal troubles at any time, such as lovelorn, family members' illness, friends failing to pay back, and these will inevitably affect your mood and affect your work mood.

When we are in crisis, it is hard not to bring frustration, irritability and depression into work. You really want others to forgive you, or even share your troubles. However, you find that most people are indifferent to your experience, and not many people are willing to take the time to listen to your misfortunes. You are very annoyed: "why not a little compassion?"

When most people are in a low ebb, they always want to get the attention of others. Yes, "sympathy" and "care" are like the dawn of a long, cold night. "Sympathy" and "care" must exist, but perhaps not as much as you want.

Even a colleague who gets along with each other will not know how to care about you. He only knows how to respect other people's privacy. He will feel that excessive care can sometimes make you feel sick. Because when a person is suffering, he usually needs time to heal. At this time, others chattering on the side may make you even more upset.

Interpersonal communication experts believe that in the office, if a person always likes to ask other people's misfortune or privacy, he often becomes unpopular.

Therefore, those who suffer pain may feel that they are not valued.

However, some emotional problems can be brought to the office, while others are best left at home. Because others can not fully understand your situation, their suggestions and care may not be able to touch the essence of the matter. In general, when people are in trouble, it is easy to produce inappropriate expectations for others. For example, you feel that your colleagues should "cooperate with you more than ever before". Your superiors should take care of you. Your subordinates should obey you unconditionally. As a result, when people around you can't give you all this, these expectations may give you pessimism, and this pessimistic mood makes it harder for you to put your mind and body into work. In fact, the relationship between colleagues is only a combination of occupations, and the expectation between them can avoid emotional loss.

In the office, we should remain public and business. The company has no obligation to pay for your personal problems. You must learn to be responsible for yourself. Trying to treat everyone in the office as your friend may not help you in any difficulty. Supervisors and colleagues may be able to tolerate your inefficient work in a short time. But for a long time, sympathy is weak, reality is reality, and the work must be done. You must recognize that in any case, in the office, ensuring the smooth progress of work is more important than anything else. Remember, even if you are in a sea of pain, do not vent too much personal emotion in the office. You should learn to control your emotions instead of being controlled by emotions. The important thing is to find out the corresponding countermeasures and let yourself get out of this crisis emotionally.