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(1) attitude is sincere and kind.

The attitude of speaking is an important factor to decide whether a conversation is successful or not. Because both sides of the conversation always observe each other's facial expressions and facial expressions, they are extremely sensitive.

Therefore, we must give each other a serious, kind and sincere feeling.

For example, to congratulate others on their achievements, they must be sincere and enthusiastic when speaking. When others encounter unfortunate things to see and comfort, their expressions must be sympathetic and attentive.

If you appear to be absent minded and half hearted, that is, impolite will cause others' antipathy.

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Secondly, "small house".

Houses are meant to be houses.

For example, "Mao's grass house", "cold house" and "hut" are all self effacing words.

"House" is a modest word used by family members who are younger than their own in front of outsiders.

All family members with a small family age and younger age should be given the word "family", such as "brother", "sister", "nephew" and so on.

But we can not use "child" or "give up daughters". They can only be called "children", "little daughter-in-law", "little girl" and "son-in-law".

Besides, "outsiders".

"Decree" is a respectful word. Anyone who addresses other people's family, regardless of their age or size, is called a "command" to express their respect, such as the father's "father" and "strict". The mother is "Ling Tang" and "mercy". His wife is "Zheng Zheng" (or "respecting wife" and "virtuous wife"). Relatives are "brother", "Lingdi", "Lingmei", son is "Ling lung", daughter is "Ling Yuan" and so on.

In addition, there are also some honorific expressions, such as "couples" and "good couples".

在日常交往、辦事中也有一些使用頻率較高的敬語，如初次見面稱“久仰” ，很久不見稱“久違” ，請(qǐng)人批評(píng)稱“指教” ，求人原諒稱“包涵” ，“麻煩別人稱“打擾” ，向人祝賀道“恭喜” ，請(qǐng)人受禮叫“笑納” ，歸還東西叫“奉還” ，求給方便稱“借光” ，歡迎購買叫“惠顧” ，托人辦事稱“拜托” ，贊人見解稱“高見” ，央人幫忙稱“勞駕” ，看望別人稱“拜訪” ，陪伴友人稱“奉陪” ，等候客人“恭候” ，對(duì)方來信稱“惠書” ，請(qǐng)人指點(diǎn)稱“賜教” ，賓客來到稱“光臨” ，未及歡迎說“失迎” ，中途先走稱“失陪” ，不勞遠(yuǎn)送叫“留步”等等。

Honorific is a respectful and respectful word. We must pay attention to the following three points when we use it: occasions.

Honorific words are mainly used in the following four occasions: formal social occasions; meetings, negotiations and other official occasions; talking with teachers or persons of higher status; dealing with strangers.

Object.

The use of honorific should be targeted. We should first see the objects clearly and then choose proper honorific words respectively.

For example, if you want to ask an elder's age, you can ask this question: "you old man's longevity?" and when asked about his peers, he can do this: "may I ask your excellency?"

In particular, it is not advisable to use some rare honorific words to avoid misunderstanding.

The usage of modest words is less. Besides the "big family" and "small house" mentioned above, the self effacing words commonly seen in letters are "stupid", "despised", "student", "late life" and so on.

It should be noted that the titles in front of them are "family", "house", "small" and so on, which contain the meaning of "I", so they can no longer be called "my father" when they are used.

It is also important to form the habit of using polite language.

"Please, you, Hello, thank you, sorry, no matter, goodbye", everyone should pay attention to these seven polite expressions, and make proper use of them, which will bring convenience to human communication and business activities.

(3) the voice and intonation are smooth and soft.

In social situations and business activities, it is advisable to speak softly.

We know that the beauty of language is the expression of the beauty of the mind.

A good heart makes a good word.

Therefore, in order to grasp soft spoken language, we should first strengthen our ideological cultivation and character training.

At the same time, we should also pay attention to some special requirements in diction and intonation.

For example, we should pay attention to the use of honorific honorific words, avoid using rude and dirty words; in the sentence pattern, we should use "negative sentences" and use "affirmative sentences"; in terms of words, we should pay attention to emotional coloring, use more commendatory words, neutral words, and use less derogatory words; in tone and tone, be kind, gentle, sincere and friendly, do not add some "uh", "ah", "this", do not talk in a lecture tone or put on aggressive posture.

In conversation, eye contact, with a sincere smile, "smile truth" will increase the influence.