It doesn't take a long time, at most three sentences. But only a small note praising someone's achievement in something - as long as it is sincere - can let people go.

So why don't we send more? Note What about it?

I think there are three reasons. For beginners, it takes time. Second, we prefer verbal praise, such as telling someone, "doing well" - which we think is effective. At the same time, some people stubbornly suggest that when you praise someone enthusiastically, that person usually won't get so well again. achievement 。

However, the following are the problems of these excuses. First, write 3 sentences with a note to compliment someone. work It takes more time to arrange a meeting for Tuesday than by e-mail. Second, you can't keep the conversation - when you feel depressed for something, you can't go back to the conversation clearly. A note written is durable. Even by e-mail.

Finally, as the Nobel prize winner, Daniel Kahneman, a psychology professor, wrote in his book, "thinking is fast and slow," most of the things we do involve skills and luck. Because luck is changeable, these actions are affected by the mean regression. An Israeli air force instructor has emphasized to Kahneman that students at the Academy of military academy respond best to criticism, because when they scream to their students, they will do better next time. When he commends them, the next flight of the officers' school will not be as good as this.

Of course, this will happen - we are severely criticized for the horrific, substandard work, and their luck may be changed next time (even if the technology remains unchanged). We only praise a good job. A good job is made up of skills and luck. Only when lucky goddess patronize, can she continue. Fortune goddess is casual.

In other words, even a disappointing performance after a compliment note does not mean it is useless. It may motivate the person to try again. In the long run, this will lead to better job performance.

I think this is a great solution: try at least one week to write an email that someone wants to print and save. Who will you write to today?