According to Dr. Nader. Dr. zuin's point of view in communication, the first four minutes of contact between strangers are crucial.

In his book, he said to friends who had established a new friendship: "when you meet strangers in social situations, you should focus on him for four minutes.

Many people's lives will change accordingly.

You can notice that most people do not concentrate their attention on the people they have just met. They are constantly looking around and looking for more interesting people.

If anyone treats you like this, you will not like him.

When we are introduced to new friends, the author says, we should try to be friendly and confident.

"Generally speaking," he said, "people like to love their own people."

Besides, we can not let others think we are arrogant, showing interest or sympathy to others is very important.

Know that others also have their own needs, fears and hopes.

When you hear the above advice, you may say that I am not a friendly or confident person. Is it not honest?

Dr. Zuo Ning thinks that as long as he practices several times, he will change his way of socializing.

As long as we want to change our character, we will eventually get used to it. It's like buying a new car. You may not feel familiar at first, but it is always better than the old one.

Is it a dishonest behavior to show friendliness or self-confidence in a person who is not friendly and self-supporting?

Perhaps, "complete honesty" is not always appropriate for social relationships, especially in the first few minutes of contact, but there may be various manifestations, but proper performance is the best way to communicate with strangers.

This is not a time to complain about your health problems or find other people's shortcomings. This is not the time to put your views and impression together.

It also applies to family members or friends. For husbands and wives, parents and children, problems often occur in the first four minutes after their long periods.

Dr. Zuo Ning suggested that these minutes should be taken care of. If you discuss unpleasant things, you need to solve them later.

The author claims that interpersonal relationships should be treated as a compulsory course in schools as well as reading, writing and mathematics. The success of life is mainly based on the fact that we get along with the people around us, which is at least as important as the knowledge we have.