每個人都有自尊，愿意聽好話，而不希望別人對自己指手畫腳，這是人之常情，尤其是對部分有一定能力又具有自戀人格特征的下屬，不恰當?shù)呐u和在業(yè)務上的干涉，常常會激起他們很強的心理逆反，甚至憤怒?；蛘吆皖I導頂嘴，或者炒老板魷魚，這都是領導不愿看到的。而從另一個角度看，這些具有自戀人格特征的下屬，往往進取心強，如果用好了，最有可能成為公司得力的干將。對于這樣的員工，批評和要求，最好采取首先肯定他的成績、能力和潛力，然后再具體地指出他工作中需要改進的地方，提出你對他的期望，最后別忘了說一句：“相信你一定能做好。”這樣既讓他不丟面子，又讓他心中有數(shù)，還激發(fā)了他內(nèi)在的動力。

For some employees who are highly regulated and dependent, they need to put forward clear and explicit requirements on the basis of respect. Don't be too vague. Such employees tend to be more conscientious in their work, and the spirit of independent innovation is poorer. If the instruction given is too vague, the effect will not be very good.

From the perspective of behaviorist psychology, intensification is divided into positive reinforcement (reward) and negative reinforcement (punishment), advocating the use of positive reinforcement as much as possible and less negative reinforcement. Specifically, leadership art requires more praise and less criticism from subordinates, and more rewards for positive behaviors that meet the leader's intentions, including appropriate material rewards, while "bad money" is good for bad behavior, but it can not be abused. After all, every punishment is a hurting for the enthusiasm and loyalty of subordinates.

When a good leader knows others, he needs not only these skills but also his eq.

Those who can achieve a higher social status are more narcissistic and more controllable than ordinary people. These characteristics can be a source of success on the one hand. On the other hand, there are many hidden dangers for dealing with subordinates. If you are easily irritated by the "under the head" or listening to the opinions of the subordinates, or the subordinates' demands are too high, so that their subordinates are miserable, then you need to reflect on yourself. When you are a small employee, how do you feel if the leader treats you like that?

In your childhood, did your parents and relatives treat you in a similar way? How did your young mind taste?

And why do you treat others the same way when you become a leader?

　　領導和員工各自生活經(jīng)歷留下的“情結(jié)”，都會干擾正常的工作關系，而不論是領導和員工，不斷在心理上調(diào)試自己，對于更好的仕途或“錢”途都是必要的，對于部分心理問題較復雜的人，也可以請心理醫(yī)生來幫助指導。