1) deliberately revealing

For example, the actors nowadays are young, beautiful, intelligent, good singing, and acting vividly. They try to create an image and enhance their sense of superiority in the audience.

2) talk about your personal affairs, so as to narrow the distance between them.

It is not necessarily necessary to see the mountain when opening the door.

Why not put aside the theme for a while, talk about the common topic first, or your own trivial matters, in order to achieve the resonance of the soul.

As Kennedy campaigned for the presidency, he once said lightly: "next, I want to tell you all that my wife and I have won the election, but we hope to have another child."

Talking about personal matters in the company and colleagues can enhance mutual friendliness.

But privacy does not include privacy.

If you reveal your privacy to others, others may use it as a laughing stock to attack you.

If you talk about others' privacy, you will be dissatisfied with others and take revenge.

3) listening is your magic weapon for defeating the enemy.

A man with ears at all times is much more agreeable than a man with a long mouth.

When communicating with others, if you just talk about yourself, no matter whether the other person is interested or not.

This is very impolite, and it is also very offensive.

To be a good listener, you should not only speak for yourself, but also respect others. The result is much better than you say.

Listening is not just listening, but listening sincerely, and expressing its recognition or praise from time to time.

When you listen, you should smile. You'd better not do anything else. You should express your approval with facial expressions and nodding words at the right time, so as not to give people a perfunctory impression.

Especially when the other side is complains and dissatisfaction needs to vent, listening can relieve others' hostility.

Many people say angrily that they do not necessarily need to get any reasonable explanation or compensation, but rather need to vent their grievances.

Listening is far more useful than offering advice at this time.

If there is a need for explanation, we should avoid confrontation, and we should proceed after the anger of the other side is relaxed.

4) narrow the distance between souls.

People always maintain a certain distance between them, so as to establish barriers to protect themselves while avoiding hurting others.

Although "distance produces aesthetic feeling", the distance is too far, which leads to estrangement.

According to the principle of proximity, we can narrow the distance and make it right.