On the way to work, Jason received a phone call from Aron. He anxiously asked Jason to help him again and write a new plan to the client. He said the client had urged him several times, and he really had no time.

Recently, because of the relationship between girlfriends, ah Lang often asked Jason to help with the plan.

Jason is one of the colleagues who have a good relationship in the company. Before they used to play and play together in their spare time, Jason liked him very much.

So a month ago, when Aaron excitedly talked about his association with a girl, Jason agreed to help him do some work without hesitation, giving him more time to talk about friends.

But a month later, Jason found himself more and more unhappy. He found he was tired of doing things for him.

But how can he refuse him? He finds it hard to say that he should help each other as a good friend. Will he lose this friend?

Jason thought a lot.

Colleagues in the office need a lot of help from each other. It is very necessary for us to help our colleagues in every possible way, and this will bring us a lot of benefits, such as good interpersonal relationship and efficient work.

But some people will make some unreasonable demands. So what should we do?

We are often afraid or unwilling to refuse others' requests because we are afraid of losing good relations with them.

So when facing unreasonable demands from our colleagues, we often feel embarrassed.

In fact, when we do not learn to refuse others flexibly, although we agree to their request on the surface, in fact, in our hearts, we will accumulate a lot of grievances, and the accumulation of grievances will make us miserable. In turn, it will affect our interaction with other people someday.

Therefore, it is important for us to learn positive communication skills, to learn to express our feelings rationally and to express our needs.

Rejection is an art. Its core principle is to let the other person feel your sincerity and kindness in order to get understanding and consensus.

Usually, don't be eager to express, asking and listening carefully can help you understand why he did this, instead of allowing himself to generate unnecessary emotions quickly and influence conversation.

When you understand his request, express your understanding and friendly desire to him, then let him understand your thoughts and needs, and tell him why you can not do so.

If you have differences on certain issues, you need to be firm and friendly to tell him what you think, and let him see your persistence.

For example, Jason and Aaron mentioned in front of us, when Jason was willing to help Aaron, he could help him. If Jason was unwilling to help Aaron again, he could use such a simple method to reject him: first, understanding the situation, understanding him, and telling him his own thoughts, he also needed his understanding and help.

Friendship and kindness are the most important principles when we refuse. It helps us to establish more appropriate and appropriate interpersonal relationships. Under this premise, you can use various methods flexibly, sometimes find a small excuse, or introduce others to help him find a solution.