What do you do when you find someone who says bad things behind you and secretly destroys your image?

Never be angry with others for anger.

First, stabilize your emotions, and then solve the problem step by step according to the method provided by The New York Times career columnist Sheryl Dale (CherylDahle).

1., review yourself first.

You should think about whether or not you did something or what you said, and let the other person see you disagreeable.

If you do not know, you can go to the other side to ask for help.

2. asked why.

You can ask, "I don't know what's going on, can you tell me what the problem is?"

If the other person does not want to say anything, he simply says to the other person directly, "I know you seem to be somewhat dissatisfied with me. I think we need to speak clearly."

3. euphemistic warnings.

If the other person refuses to admit that he has ever said something bad for you, you do not have to break the other party, just say to the other person, "I think I misunderstood.

However, if you have any questions later, I hope you can tell me directly.

Your purpose is to let the other person know that you will never sit idly by.

4. report to the boss.

When something like this happens second times, you can clearly tell the other person: "if the two of us can't solve the problem, we need to let the boss know about it."

If things are still not resolved, report them directly to the boss.

Of course, not all situations must be reported to the boss.

If the other person is just critical about your dressing taste, let him go. This will not affect your work or your relationship with your colleagues.